Dreams or Comfort?

Eszter Aletta Hevesi

Finally achieving something we have dreamt about for all time sounds easy in thought. Gradual but grand steps on a linear path. Getting quick results and keeping the result forever without maintaining it in any way. Sounds so easy that you would start it right now? But to be honest, it is completely untrue.

You can only achieve something by sacrificing things you have now. At least your time and energy, and we are not talking about your leisure time when you can’t think of anything else to do. You have to sacrifice your time with your family and friends. sometimes even your time for yourself. Sounds a bit harsh, doesn’t it?

The other key factor is consistency: if you are truly committed to your goal, you will think about it 24/7. On the bus, at class, during mealtimes, everywhere you go. It will be your distraction from the things you are obliged to do.

Being in this “zen state” for a long time will bring out your darker side too: you will get to know yourself better than anyone else, which will result in losing connections that seemed like your whole world before. Some people won’t understand your commitment to your goals and will leave you behind, since you don’t hang out with them as often as you used to.

Against all of these drawbacks, I only have one benefit: when you finally achieve your goal, you will be able to look at all of your comfortable past friends and people who tried to hold you back, and show them that your sacrifices paid off so much more than all of those empty hangouts and fake friendships that you were living in.